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Prior to working at my present job, I had developed certain communication habits.<\/p>\n As a female, I trained myself constrain my workplace communication to actions, objects and deadlines. That was my conception of model behavior.<\/p>\n I would never talk about my feelings. I have considered it the height of unprofessional behavior to talk about feelings. I think many women in the workplace, especially in technological professions, share that feeling.<\/p>\n There are two reasons to avoid talking about feelings:<\/p>\n First, a very common way to demean women is to say, “You are too emotional.” To be called ’emotional’ is another way saying impaired judgment, or not fit to do the work. I myself would be inclined to veer far away from any hint of emotion.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Second, to begin talking with male colleagues about feelings in the workplace, to be brutally honest, opens the door to unwanted sexual advances. If I start taking about feelings with a man, he might just talk about a whole other set of feelings that I DON’T want to know about.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n But, I’ve been struggling to communicate with my current co-workers, and I’ve been hearing feedback about how some things are not working out right. My response has been to become all the more crisp when discussing actions, objects and deadlines.<\/p>\n Not quite the right path.<\/p>\n Prior to working at my present job, I had developed certain communication habits. As a female, I trained myself constrain my workplace communication to actions, objects and deadlines. That was my conception of model behavior. I … Continue reading
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