On my WonderWeekly, I wrote about the lure and sparkle of gold stars. We want approval. We crave recognition.<\/p>\n
But how much does it really give us? It’s a sort of subtraction stew. The more you get the more you want.<\/p>\n
At what point do we…oh, wait..do *I* get over it? i’m trying to get over it.<\/p>\n
But I see it in other people and I realize what a trap it is.<\/p>\n
This scenario happens so often:<\/p>\n
Hey, Jane! I like your hair.<\/p>\n
You do? I don’t really like it. Do you think it’s okay?<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
Or:<\/p>\n
Ashley, your house is beautiful! Thank you for having us over.<\/p>\n
No, it’s not. I think your house is so much better.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
I have started to respond to these ladies, “Do you want me to agree with you? Do you want me to tell you that you are right, that your hair\/house\/project is crap? Why are you arguing with me? Are you calling me a liar?”<\/p>\n
Women seem especially susceptible to this error.<\/p>\n
We want to be voted in by the WHOLE group as homecoming queen.<\/p>\n
We want to be recognized, stand out of the crowd, and be pointed out as special and extraordinary.<\/p>\n
But I’m discovering that the only person who counts when deciding who is special is the self. \u00a0I have to tell myself what I have permission to do. I have to tell myself that my hair looks good, and that I have the right to ask for that particular day off or even that salary in the job interview<\/p>\n
It counts far more than when someone else give it to me. When I recognize myself, that’s when the gears engage and I can get things rolling.<\/p>\n
I dont’ want to be dependent on someone else to believe in myself. It’s time for me to get over that.<\/p>\n
I like being appreciated. Who doesnt’ love a compliment? But I have to have my motivation engine inside me, not located somewhere I can’t always get to.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
On my WonderWeekly, I wrote about the lure and sparkle of gold stars. We want approval. We crave recognition. But how much does it really give us? It’s a sort of subtraction stew. The more you get the more you … Continue reading