{"id":3586,"date":"2015-03-25T12:40:19","date_gmt":"2015-03-25T19:40:19","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/writtenbymurphy.com\/wonderblog\/?p=3586"},"modified":"2015-03-23T10:40:38","modified_gmt":"2015-03-23T17:40:38","slug":"rooms-i-have-been-in","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/writtenbymurphy.com\/wonderblog\/2015\/03\/rooms-i-have-been-in\/","title":{"rendered":"Rooms I have been In"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>It&#8217;s coming friends! The Russian American School of Tomorrow, the book I&#8217;ve been working on for more than a decade, will be available for purchase soon. It is my true coming-of-age story starting in Alaska and ending in the crumbling Soviet Union Asian middle-of-nowhere.<\/p>\n<p>When I went to Russia back in 1991, I didn&#8217;t speak the language. I knew the alphabet slightly when we landed. But I could barely ask where the bathroom was:&#8221;Gdye toilet?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>For sure I couldn&#8217;t understand the answers. Hand signals, please.<\/p>\n<p>But I got better. I started to understand after a lot of trying and failing. I made friends with people who could speak my language and asked them to teach me.<\/p>\n<p>After about a year I made friends with a neighbor who did not speak English at all. I delighted to visit their apartment and drink tea and talk. I could tell them about what I had done that day in Russian, and we had a grand time.<\/p>\n<p>Here&#8217;s the thing: I could talk and I knew what I was saying. The conversations went smoothly and quickly if I was doing most of the talking. I felt a little bad about dominating the time with my stories, but as long as I was talking I knew what was being said. Once the sisters started talking, I couldn&#8217;t be sure of what they meant.<\/p>\n<p>That was awkward, and required flipping out the translation dictionary to look up and be sure what was communicated.<\/p>\n<p>I was learning. I was figuring out this country and it&#8217;s language.<\/p>\n<p>But there is another thing I&#8217;ve learned since. It&#8217;s the inverse of the same thing. If I am the one talking, I know what is being said. That&#8217;s not a very powerful position to be in.<\/p>\n<p>It doesn&#8217;t do me much good to repeat what I already know. How am I supposed to learn anything if I am always talking? Or, for that matter, if I am hanging out with people who are not going to say anything I don&#8217;t already know.<\/p>\n<p>If it turns out I am the smartest person in the room, I better find a different room.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>It&#8217;s coming friends! The Russian American School of Tomorrow, the book I&#8217;ve been working on for more than a decade, will be available for purchase soon. It is my true coming-of-age story starting in Alaska and ending in the crumbling &hellip; <a href=\"http:\/\/writtenbymurphy.com\/wonderblog\/2015\/03\/rooms-i-have-been-in\/\">Continue reading <span class=\"meta-nav\">&rarr;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[3],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3586","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-random-thoughts"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/writtenbymurphy.com\/wonderblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3586","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/writtenbymurphy.com\/wonderblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/writtenbymurphy.com\/wonderblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/writtenbymurphy.com\/wonderblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/writtenbymurphy.com\/wonderblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3586"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"http:\/\/writtenbymurphy.com\/wonderblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3586\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3600,"href":"http:\/\/writtenbymurphy.com\/wonderblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3586\/revisions\/3600"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/writtenbymurphy.com\/wonderblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3586"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/writtenbymurphy.com\/wonderblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3586"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/writtenbymurphy.com\/wonderblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3586"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}