{"id":5843,"date":"2022-02-09T12:07:00","date_gmt":"2022-02-09T19:07:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/writtenbymurphy.com\/wonderblog\/?p=5843"},"modified":"2022-02-06T19:09:56","modified_gmt":"2022-02-07T02:09:56","slug":"decide","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/writtenbymurphy.com\/wonderblog\/2022\/02\/decide\/","title":{"rendered":"Decide"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Why can\u2019t you be in a good mood? How hard is it to decide to be in a good mood and be in a good mood once in a while?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

-Lloyd Dobler \u201cSay Anything\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It was a tough day at work and the boss had sent me an unexpected one-on-one meeting invite. I knew what that meant: nothing good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The exact form the bad news would take took over my mind. What had someone else said about me? I knew I hadn\u2019t done wrong, but I did not know what kind of mean-spirited rumors were being spread.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019d been living in this attitude of dread for months. This meeting was a spark to a very ready panic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I knew it. I\u2019d been trying to find my way out of this pit of despair for some time. I\u2019d found a new friend who was helping me. I\u2019d shared my story.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI\u2019m not making this up! I have proof, evidence that there are things happening behind my back!\u201d I wailed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She nodded. \u201cI believe you,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What  a relief! I barely believed myself. Surely I had some something to deserve this ill-treatment. How could people be this cruel when I\u2019d done nothing wrong?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cBut what if you didn\u2019t have to feel trapped? What if you could see this as good news?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a troubleshooting question. I was used to working with tricky equipment and wires. I\u2019d often found incorrect routing and connections to be the problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What if I could try to see if I could believe this was possible?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

My past experience would lead me to think it was not. But it was possible, even if it was a small chance.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I could hang on to that small chance. I decided that I would not let the dread over take me. I dropped a flag in the ground and declared that it would be good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It didn\u2019t take away the fear or what could happen. But I set my mind to look for what could be good. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

It let some air in, and I was able to breath and be more free.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not impossible. Good things do happen. Even when I make them myself.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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