{"id":990,"date":"2007-08-13T12:39:02","date_gmt":"2007-08-13T19:39:02","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/writtenbymurphy.com\/wonderblog\/?p=990"},"modified":"2012-06-05T21:27:21","modified_gmt":"2012-06-06T04:27:21","slug":"the-assumed-yes","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/writtenbymurphy.com\/wonderblog\/2007\/08\/the-assumed-yes\/","title":{"rendered":"The assumed Yes"},"content":{"rendered":"

Luke 11:10-11:13 <\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

I’m going to get preachy, just a little bit.<\/p>\n

Funny, I’m almost always <\/em>preachy. But I guess the sermon isn’t a sermon ’til we get to chapter and verse.<\/p>\n

That verse talks about asking for things.<\/p>\n

If your child asks you for something, something that is good for them and not bad for them, you give it.<\/p>\n

Kids usually know when the yes is assumed. Yes, it is assumed that they can have a glass of water. A can of soda…maybe not. Yes, they can read a book. Can they watch that TV show? maybe not.<\/p>\n

But for good things, they answer is usually yes. So much a yes, that the question is not always asked.<\/p>\n

It is assumed that the answer will be yes. Parents set the answer machine to ‘yes’.<\/p>\n

But there are other times when the answer machine is set to ‘yes’. My neighbor had confided in me that it was a problem for her, to refrain from ‘yes’ when people asked her for help.<\/p>\n

Because there are times when yes is not the right answer.<\/p>\n

For your children, for your spouse, the yes should be assumed.<\/p>\n

But everyone else…case-by-case basis.<\/p>\n

I used to be much more about the yes. But…it was abused at a young age. There were so many things that were assumed I would go along with, that the question was never asked.<\/p>\n

Did I want to? the thought didn’t have a chance to germinate before I was doing it.<\/p>\n

And it could get easily tangled. Was it my<\/em> problem that I did not acquiesce to the unasked? It was assumed that I surely was in agreement.<\/p>\n

But since I reached the age of accountability, I was able to contemplate all sorts of other things I wanted to do, things that I would have liked to ask for and hear yes to.<\/p>\n

This made me hyper aware of when things were assumed. Yes, I can see that it was assumed I would clean the microwave at work.<\/p>\n

My ‘yes’ was assumed.<\/p>\n

But just because it is assumed doesn’t mean that it has to be given. I can not<\/em> do things now, because my volition is entirely within my own power.<\/p>\n

HOORAY FOR BEING AN ADULT!<\/p>\n

I get to choose.<\/p>\n

And there are things that I do choose to say yes to.<\/p>\n

And things I don’t.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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