Our trip to Germany and Denmark was only a week, and we hadn’t put the usual careful planning in. I grabbed a notebook and stuffed it into the carry-on for the plane ride. I slept on the overnight flight. Well, I tried to sleep as best I could. I didn’t write in the notebook.

When I stepped off the plane in the floaty weary traveler fog, I immediately noticed things. Interesting things that I wanted to remember, that I wanted to tell other people about and examine more fully when I had a moment.

That’s what I love about travelling! That’s why I am doing this. So many remarkable things I didn’t have a chance to even remark about with the people right next to me. There were so many things atttacting my attention I couldn’t even notice them in the moment.

As soon as we got in the hotel,we collapsed in exhaustion. When I woke up I scrambled for the notebook I brought without thinking and poured the notes of what had happened. Just the fact, quick before I forget.

Time was moving fast, and everyone woke up to go see the sights. I didn’t have a chance to finish my writing down the bare facts of the trip.

I saw so many more things that I had to capture as soon as I had a moment with the notebook. It was a race, to write it all down before I forgot it.

This is a forgotten feeling brought to me again. Like a favorite food I hadn’t eaten for years, the compulsion to notice and savor in writing the adventures in encounter.

Why Why had I stopped doing this delicious thing?

Both the travel and the noticing.

Going through chemo and cancer treatment sucked. I chose a focus to walled me off from the sensations in my body.

For example, my mouth would have no saliva (this still happens) and that has consequences for swallowing and speaking. The skin inside my nose would be parched far, far far up the sinus cavity causing stiletto-sharp boogers to stab me day and night. This has stopped, thank heaven.

The unexplored territory of cancer treatment did offer experience to notice. I did not want to go there, carefully cultivating a tunnel vision.

On this trip, I awakened that hunger and curiosity. I am safe and ready to explore.

When our daughter was a baby, we read all the books. Yes, I had “what to expect..” One of Chris’s favorite was one about growth spurts. We found it pretty accurate, that certain milestones would happen and we could expect certain things in her life.

God bless those child experts, who gave a roadmap for this very important part of our lives.

A couple years later I was asking my Psychology professor friend about those milestones. “Do they have those for adults too? It seems like once we get to 21 and are allowed to drink, it’s a wilderness.” She agreed there wasn’t much after people hit adulthood.

It’s up to the individual person to make a map. Piecing together from the scraps of the stories I’ve heard and the weeds that grow along the path, I can pick a direction.

Maybe this combination of local foliage will be sustaining….maybe I could try what they are doing over there

Off the map it’s a land of myth, rumor and experimentation.

But I know I’m not going to stay still, so I’d better pick a rumor and explore it.

A brand new adventure, right? That’s exciting. From nothing to the first bit of something is a huge step.

The thing is the next step is a lot less impactful. To live in the myth I have to do the hard work of beign unimpressive for a long time. Just one step isn’t much of an experiment.

The journey of ten thousand steps starts with one step. It don’t’ become ten thousand steps without the 362^ndstep. Or that other 7,562. By the time I get that far I better be ready to enjoy the scenery. I suppose my stories help create the map for others.

I’d like to think of the myth of myself I’m creating, but there are a lot of dreary steps to get through first.

I’ve been writing most of my life. This last bit, with the chemo and everything, I let myself put my attention eslewhere.

I remember getting in the habit of blogging in the 2000s. I wrote every day. I didn’t try to be profound. At this moment I am trying to find a way to increase my excitement and determination.

No one comes to this blog. And by no one, I mean I have less than ten visitors a week. It might be the same person. It might be a bot that is trying to figure out a way to exploit this site somehow

but for sure, this is not a platform to impress anyone. This is my empty corner where I can do repetitive exercises to see if i can eventually attain something I like.

And if I like it I might share it with others. I certainly don’t expect them to find it HERE

I used to get readers here. That has changed. And that’s ok.

today I hope to start a habit to get better at writing.

I was talking about mission statements with Veronica yesterday. We had been talking about how governments formed

families–>clans –>tribes –>nations

then the nations in combination with religion came up with a reason for why the ruler was the ruler

divine right of kings

then the enlightenment happened, and people decided not to leave leadership up to kings and elected leaders

once that was out of place, people could imagine other ways of running a society and other ideas emerged including marxism

Marxism also wants to get rid of Religion

which means a bigger overthrow of the controlling parts of societyz

the enlightenment coincided with the industrial revolution and over time this has led to corporate entities, businesses who had to create new mission statements to give a common goal to their constituents

I shared this idea with Veronica and we looked at some fortune 500 mission statements

They are basic, recreations of common goals that used to be part of the culture. But the culture got upended

and now we have to redefine everything.

But it doens’t have a soul

Veronica said “They don’t define “best.”

All the mission statement ssay something like “to be the best provider of the thing we provide”

We dont’ have a workign definition of best.

I’d like to think I was on the track and moving forward. My cancer journey put me on a side track, a maintenance track for quite a while. But wasn’t that supposed to be over?

I had to do what I could do to get through it. Shrinking horizons and lowered standards changed my world.

Meanwhile, back at the rest of the world, this new thing was catching on:
AI

Artificial Intelligence. It will give an explanation, organize and create long reports. Its great!

Well, it is pretty good. Be reasonable, it’s a computer after all.

It would seem the whole world was also shrinking its expectations. Sufficient is better than excellent. Don’t expect too much, but it will do.

If I’m trying to get my feet under me and be excellent once more, is that no longer fashionable? What moved out from underneath me while I was under that burden? I see that society is looking for more of the ordinary.

Excellence has always been rare. The easiest path is the one worn down with frequent use. That only makes sense. The harder thing is less traveled.

I am looking for my old habits that I once had and I want to take up again. Except nobody is asking me to. I am struggling to find the reason.

Is my higher self a memory of an adventure I once had?

“Wasn’t that crazy? aahhhh….” As I settle in and arrange the pillows around me. “Once upon a time, I was really something.”

Once. Am I that same person?

I’d like to be.

I’ll be honest, I have foggy ambitions. I do know that I’m disappointing myself by not going deeper for more clarity. Just like I would be if I cut and pasted in an AI response without adding my own spark. I could easily sit back and coast on all that I created before.

Doing nothing now wouldn’t take away from what I’ve already done.

Except

I don’t want to be done. I know that I need to find an inspiring challenge. It’s been a long journey back to myself. There is a lot of rubble to put back in order. The wild beasts have made their nests in this life of mine while I was away.

But this is my life, and I’m not going to share it with anyone who hasn’t fought for it like I can and do.

In a world—a universe—of adventures and experiences I am thirsty for more. And after a long day of keeping my everyday under control, I might only have the memory of thirst. Where did I leave the keys to my house? And did I lose the one to the special gate that leads to the magic kingdom?

Oh, look. They are in my pocket. Were they here all along?

Don’t sit down yet. Leave the shoes on my feet. I will need them if I’m going through the gate.

I am afraid the door might be too heavy to open. Close my eyes tight so I don’t have to look. It’s too scary to face. The idea is enough, right? I can imagine what could be and that’s almost as good.

Until I shame myself into opening my eyes, and see there isn’t a door after all. I have to walk further up the path to find the door, it seems. I don’t even see it yet. If I stay on this path I will surely find it.

Until I realize that’s as far as I can go today, I can go this far from the everyday. I’ll come back tomorrow ready to go further until I see it.

Which means, back to regular life for now. I will come back tomorrows

It’s when stack up the come-backs and revisit it on the tomorrows that I get closer to the magic kingdom. After a while it doesn’t feel like a magic kingdom, it feels like a well-worn path. Familiarity doesn’t feel like magic, but I’m far further along than I ever thought I would be.

Showing up tired, keeping my shoes on when the everyday gives me a break. Still looking for that magic. I found stuff along the way, not sure if it’s the magic I thought it was but I would not have found it without looking like this.

I look in the mirror every day, but I am not at all sure what I look like in the world. Yes, I have taken phone photos of the back of my head to see what my hair looks like. But still, I’m not sure if I am presenting myself the way I want to.

Then again, what is it I’m trying for? How perfect am I supposed to be when I can’t even tell what I see?

I have been trying to get a view on myself, and whether or how all my medical adventures have changed me. How do I get a view on whether I am weaker or tire more easily than before? That’s not something I can take a photo of.

Do I contort myself to find a way to capture a view? Chasing the immaterial.

What is it I’m looking for? What magic will my appearance unlock?

Perfect is too narrow a target. It’s not even important. Should I be trying for the perfect hair-do? Should I stretch my voice for the perfect note?

I’m never going to get it perfect. Showing up at all is going to get me what I want.

The right place at the right time is magic.

My sensei has taught me the best way to avoid a punch:

Don’t be there.

When my body is not in striking range, I am safe from strikes.

The opposite is just as true. When a nudge or a push is needed the time is now.

Showing up is better than being perfect. Raising my hand when my name. Sitting at the table. Answering the question when it is asked.

And singing the songs. I know I am not as good a singer or musician as I wish I were. But the best way to sing a song is to sing it.

Pushing it into reality. Both performance and practice. I don’t have to contort myself to make a perfect shape. I’m not going to let this day fall without making a sound

Took a day off from the day job. The water and city people who are so very good to me. When it comes to a whole city, that is a lot of water. I’m learning more about the world of water—they are very willing share what they know.

What all the operators say: “Sewer is where the big bucks are.”

Sewer performs a valuable job, truly a service people are willing to pay for. That’s not the part that makes it so lucrative though. The money comes from transforming the sewage into something valuable on the other side. That stuff most people are desperate to get rid of still has value

Creating value and therefore money out of garbage. A friend once told me “If you have enough of something, it can be sold. If you have piles of dirt it can be turned into money!” (I miss you, Char-lez. RIP)

I took a day off to take a trip to Las Vegas. I’d been looking forward to this trip for almost a year. We were going to see a show. The rest of the family slept in, but I woke up at my usual time and went out to get some coffee.

Walking through the stale cigarette air I passed people captured by the Medusa’s gaze, turned to stone in front of the spinning slots. A jolt of recognition—this is how I must look if someone passes me when I have fallen into my phone.

The dealer’s tables were mostly empty. One had three girlfriends playing, and the next one had a single man leaning forward intently. The dealer was telling him “Listen to me, I have been around and I’ve seen a lot, you need to slow it down.”

Friday morning, turning a boredom and desperation into a cash crop.

The sewer industry is welcome to my contribution. I’m thinking I could invest my spare time better than I have been. That man was desperate to give his money to the dealer, likely because he hoped he could make more.

I don’t have to get lucky with my time. I have experience to know what happens when I plant the seeds. I’d like to keep my attention to my own business and not give it away.

I wonder ay beauty.

I wonder what a thought or experience means

I wonder if I am capable of making the idea I have into a reality.

Wonder in combination with action is how art happens. I can achieve wonder as a consumer of art. The internalized wonder will change me.

A little.

It’s the action, though—the trying—that births the art. And changes who I am. I want the change, I want to experience new ideas and new thoughts. I reach for it. I would say The Algorithm is pitched to provide interesting but not too challenging packages of thoughts to as much of the human race as possible. I pursue it.

An it’s not enough. I want to get my hands in it and make my own. That means stepping off the conveyor belt of bite sized mind snacks. I am hungry for more than a snack. Can I make something satisfying?

Can I make anything worthwhile? I’ve got this idea. When I start putting into some form—

Words?

Music?

Pictures?

How big is my idea? Maybe it’s too big for me.

The art of creation or creation of art causes a ripple, a current that pulls the artist into realization

Realization of the art

Realization that the art will not match the vision. My idea is far greater than what I can create. I push myself to do a better job. To get better at what what it’s going to take to make this art that haunts me.

I want to be better.

Creating art gives me a place to begin on being a more skilled, disciplined, compassion and wiser person.

I want it, and it is hard. People say, “don’t be so hard on yourself!”

It sounds like compassion, and sometimes it is.

I might need the rest so I can keep going. If I don’t give up there’s still a chance.

I thought I had to be something I wasn’t. See, I wanted to perform and play music with other people. I watched these cool guitar players—I even made friends with them!—on stage at the restaurants. That is what I wanted. They sang and played all these gorgeous songs with their amps as they thumped on the guitar body.

I don’t play guitar. I had an awkward keyboard, big and clumsy to carry around to play with others. It was an impossible dream to make music and get a better set of songs. I was not that cool.

I’ve been waiting two and a half years to be set free. It burned to feel locked out after all that. I set my jaw and looked for a way around this wall. If I couldn’t move my instrument, what could I do where it stood?

Even if no one came with me.

I gave myself a challenge: record and post 100 different songs. Could I play and sing that many? If I posted them on the internet, I could get the joy of performing in a small way.

I’m impatient. And stubborn. If I didn’t make an effort, 100 songs could take years. I started with easy ones and didn’t try to be perfect. I figured I could do my best effort and the goal was to rack up numbers.

Two things happened:

My piano playing got better. Giving myself a goal was very motivating, and I was excited to keep practice and record songs.

I posted 9 songs before I shared one with my husband. He tilted his head. “Your voice sounds different.”

I thought it was just because I was practicing the piano part more than the singing part. I wasn’t picking songs that were hard to sing.

He played a recording of me singing from 3 years ago. He was right. I sounded weak.

I hadn’t realized that my throat surgeries had impacted my singing voice. I had been focusing on strength and range of motion in my right arm after the reconstruction. That was obvious and painful, and I’d already made strides in moving my arm. It barely hurt anymore.

I’d made so much progress on the obvious thing, that I’d moved on to what I thought was extra, just a garnish.

Singing and playing songs was for when the big stuff was under control. I’d been longing to pick it up and do it again. Which I had begun to do.

That’s how I discovered my voice was strangled with the surgery scar tissue. It didn’t affect how I talked. I hadn’t realized what I had lost.

Like wakening to a near collision, I was shocked and horrified that my voice was so affected.

Like I said I’d already been working on breaking up scar tissue. Was I doomed to lose my singing voice?

One thing I’ve learned, a little exercise to loosen scars can restore my abilities. And the sooner the better.

It shouldn’t surprise me that I had scar tissue from my surgeries. I’m so grateful that I discovered it sooner than later so I could smooth it out.

I could have sat back and just WISHED I had a place to play and sing. By making the opportunity for myself, I did more than I expected. I made time for a thing that was non-essential and gave myself a gift for my whole life

All the world can be divided into categories. Each person has their own way of recognizing sameness in things. It’s well known that beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

It’s also true that the dark corner of everyone’s heart hides fear.

Who knows what fears lurk in the heart of men? What scares me today could seem insignificant tomorrow. And the opposite could be true the day after.

What am I to do?

When I was a kid, a neighbor loaned me a bike and we went riding around the neighborhood.

Riding through the corner gas station, he said “Don’t ride through that puddle, the gas might degrade the rubber tire.”

I nodded, and I kept the dreaded puddle right in my sights so I could avoid it. I rode straight through it.

NO!

When I focus on my fear, I aim straight for it. I’m the only one who knows what I’m afraid of, and that may very well be why I think I can deceive myself and others to hide from the fears.

I’ll never run out of reasons to be afraid.

That’s not the category to focus on. I’m turning my head to fill my eyes with beauty. My eyes, ears, my thoughts let me fill them with art.

I am re-reading Art & fear. The journey to making art is haunted by fear. Since I want the beauty, I must live through the fear.

Just as no one else can say what I am afraid of, no one can tell me what is beautiful. They both are part of what makes me an individual. Grappling with my fears gives me the power to express myself in art or brave actions.

And the brave act of making art enlarges my personhood, adding complexity with each attempt.

I’ll miss that puddle of gas the next time. I’ve learned to keep my head up as I’m riding.