Okay, i thought of what I want to write about. It’s disorganized, but let me see if I can explain it.
“Open-Minded” used to be a popular phrase. I don’t hear it as much as I used to, but certainly, “Closed-Minded” is a well-established bad thing.
I am seeing more and more the stance that used to connote open-minded as being a closed minded one.
I met a woman at a social event, and she worked with gangster kids. This caught my interest right away. ‘Tell me more about that. I am astonished at the lack of attention given to helping kids stay out of gangs.’
She was surprised at my interest. “What do you want to know?”
I said that I thought we needed to ask until we got an answer. That we should not stop and be satisfied with the bad situation that our children are in.
She was taken with that idea. To ask until you find an answer. But she wasn’t sure you could ever find an answer. In any question, really.
She had a good point. What happens when you find the answer? Are there questions with no answers?
I believe no. There are no questions without answers.
But then, like the hitchhiker’s guide tells us, are you sure you are asking the right question?
Often, the answer to a question will be another question. And when you reach that the question/answer to the question, have you made progress?
I believe yes. I believe that as we sincerely question, even if our questions result in more questions, the understanding broadens. And when we understand we can do more or better than we have before.
I like people who question. I like it when people ask. But I have noticed there are people who ask, but do not believe in the answer. Not that they think the answer isn’t correct, but the deny the premise of an ‘answer’s existence.
They enjoy questions, but only for their own sake. No answers required, or, indeed, allowed. These clever people can deflect any proposed answer with reasons to deny it.
It is as if they wish only to maintain the integrity of the perfect unanswerability of the question.
They stick tot their question until a new more intrigiung question presents itself. Sometimes, this question is what I would call and ANSWER to the first question. But, they don’t think of it that way.
I am interested in asking to the answer. Questions are TOOLS to me, not toys.